A: If you could be more specific it would be helpful. I'm assuming you have been charged with a crime and the State has amended the charging document? If so, there is no remedy to you. The State can amend the information at any time. It may cause your attorney to ask for a continuance, however there is nothing legally wrong with the State amending.
A: All of that should be part of the equitable distribution in your divorce case. If not, you really need to talk to your attorney, or hire one if you haven't. Just like home ownership when two married people are on the mortgage, one can't force the other to refiance unless it's part of your marital settlement agreement.